Monday, April 30, 2012

SiF #330 - Science Corner with Maggie: Lube pH

Is your lube ruining your vagina or destroying your chances of getting knocked up? Maggie Koerth from comes back to educate the Sex is Fun! hosts on the importance of paying attention to pH levels. Find out if your favorite lube is making your sex pal's vagina pissed.
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Thursday, April 26, 2012

Metaphorically Speaking

While at the library the other day I found this amazing book:

I was immediately struck with the 70’s fabulous cover art; illustration of waves on the ocean implying (I assume) that total orgasm is just like ocean waves washing over you again and again.  While a good metaphor, imagery like this sometimes makes me cranky because it seems like it stems from a desire to not talk about the realities of sex-bodies, fluids, people using hands and mouths and genitals on each other.  It can be embarrassing to talk about all those things.  Much better to just say hot sex should be just like “waves on the ocean.”

Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a critique of the book Total Orgasm at all.  I wouldn’t dare to critique it since I haven’t read it.  I am purely referring to my reaction to the cover art.

This is also not a rant at people who like to describe their sex with metaphor.  If you like to think of your multiple orgasms as waves on the ocean, more power to you!  If you see a spiritual component to sex that can only be described in poetic language like “earth shaking,” “becoming one with everything” or “the volcanos of eros erupting in my pants”   then I am very happy you are having such enlightening experiences.

What I take issue with is when professionals who are attempting to teach people how to have better sex use these phrases without accompanying them with any concrete information.  Ok, so great sex should be like waves on the ocean.  Sounds fun to me.  How do I do that?  How do I put my body together with my partner’s body and get waves on the ocean to happen?  Where do I put my fingers?  What should I do with my mouth?  What if their tide goes out before my waves crest?  Should I adjust my moon phase to elevate my water levels?

Do you see my concern here?  Professionals shouldn’t forget that sex involves lots of things: anatomy and function, bodies, self esteem, fluids, technique, emotions, turn ons, safer sex concerns, and spirituality are all important aspects.  And those are just a few aspects that might come up for folks.  But if you are trying to teach people how to have more satisfying sex lives you can’t be afraid to give straightforward, concrete information.  Metaphors might give people good ideas of how sex feels to you or what your philosophy about sex includes but it won’t tell them how to make reactions happen in their own or other people’s bodies.

Monday, April 23, 2012

SiF #329 - Role Play (Part 2)

The discussion heats up as the SiF crew talks about the many scenarios that can play out in your bedroom. Listen as loaded topics like racism, classism, sexual assault, and incest enter the arena and hear how Coochie, Laura Rad, and Gay Rick disagree. The group finishes up by discussing safe words and aftercare.

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Thursday, April 19, 2012

Is your sex toy full of chemicals???

Want to know how The Smitten Kitten started on its path to educate people about toxic toys? Store owner, Jennifer Pritchett tells the story in this fascinating video. Watch it, forward it to friends who might have toxic toys, post it on facebook. Seriously people, do it for your privates!!!

Monday, April 16, 2012

SiF #328 - Role Play (Part 1 of 2)

Coochie, Gay Rick, and Laura Rad talk about role play sex. Learn about costumes, negotiation, expenses, and the importance of not laughing when you enter the realm of erotic fantasy. Coochie wonders what to do when you feel dumb during the scene. Laura Rad fantasizes about doing things she's not sure she would normally do. Rick talks once again about being drunk. The gang agrees on the importance of understanding your partner's triggers.

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Thursday, April 12, 2012

Men in Lacy Underthings

Today is dedicated to all the men out there with something frilly under their khakis. Lots of men wear panties for lots of different reasons. Some like to do something that feels naughty, some like the look, the way their special bits are held more snugly than in boxers or the feel of the soft, shiny or lacy material.

The popular misconception is that men who like to wear women's clothing must be gay. In fact, numbers seem to indicate that the majority of men who enjoy wearing women's clothing self identify as straight. Of course people can't always be looked at in terms of "the numbers" and there will be a wide variety of folks who defy the trends in any group. If you find out someone you know likes to dress in clothes of the opposite gender, have a conversation with them and find out what they like about it before making assumptions about what it may or may not mean about their broader sexual preferences and orientations, ok?

Ok sorry, Tim Curry had to end up in this post somewhere.

If you are a panty wearing man or a person who loves them you should check out He Wears Panties. This site offers reviews of panties, articles about what panties are flattering and how to come out to significant others as well as forums where you can participate in discussion. Now, go forth and look at sexy underpants!

Monday, April 9, 2012

SiF #327 - Listener Questions

You asked us, and we answer! That's right, it's time for a listener question show. A listener calls in to talk about how her vanilla boyfriend dipped his toe into her poly life. Someone talks about long distance relationships, female masturbation, and discussions of pleasure. Another person talks about sexual labels and the crew totally agrees! The gang discusses a sexless marriage and brainstorms some potentially helpful ways to tap that.

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Monday, April 2, 2012

SiF #326 - 5 Questions: Mark

Do you know what a self-proclaimed heterosexual vanilla man fantasizes about? Tune in to today's show to find out as we ask Mark the 5 Questions.

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Sunday, April 1, 2012

SiF - 5 Questions: Mustache Rangers

Sex is Fun is wishing our listeners a happy April Fools Day with an extra episode by special guest podcasters!!! The hilarious Mustache Rangers receive a message from Mustache Rangers Headquarters that just happens to be the Sex is Fun 5 Questions. Will the 5 Questions hold up in deep deep space? Commander Major Alastair Q. Bastidious and First Lieutenant Rutuger G. Phooneybaum will have to get personal to complete this mission.

The Mustache Rangers are a podcast and improv comedy team from Minneapolis, Minnesota. Their performances and podcasts are best described as a cross between Buck Rogers, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and Samuel Beckett. Subscribe to their podcast for free and find out more about how to see them live at

Come back tomorrow (Monday) for our regular weekly episode of Sex is Fun!

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